When you're not supposed to go out, how do you go on a date?
This is a question going around a lot of my mommy groups on Facebook right now. After all, we're supposed to date our spouse, but when the whole world is shut down, it's harder than normal to find the time and means of doing so.
I had just about given up on sneaking in our April date this year. We would simply have to date every month but April, due to the stupid Coronavirus. Then, I had a realization.
Date night doesn't have to be going out to dinner or a movie or play or anything else. I simply means time set aside to spend together, wherever you are. Okay. So, how did I make it work when we have two very small children who don't like to go to sleep after we put them down at night? And neither of us likes to wait until after eight before eating dinner, either.
Our next-door neighbors are a sweet couple who have taken us in as surrogate children/grandchildren basically from the moment we moved in. We've spent time together all through this staying-at-home thing, from going on walks to playing in the yard or talking over the fence. We're keeping each other sane.
When I mentioned wanting to go on a walk with it being just my husband and me one evening, my neighbor jumped at the chance to hang out in the yard with my children and watch them play until we got back. She even stayed long enough so that we could run and grab ice cream from Sonic afterwards. That was the first part of our date. Then, after we got the children down, we watched a movie. It didn't require dressing up. Didn't even cost much money. But it was time together. And that's the whole point.
I've seen people playing games, having late dinners, even doing dancing lessons through online classes in their living room. I love it. (Although I haven't sold my husband on the dancing idea yet). During such a crazy chaotic time especially, it's important we keep the bonds strong in our relationships. And I'd love to hear what you've been doing for date night when there's nowhere to go. How are you keeping your love alive?
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