Real-life Romance: Choose

I had the radio on in the car the other day. Not always a safe choice, but the station I was tuned to is fairly clean. The kids and I were headed to school and a popular song came on.
I quickly turned it off.
"Why did you do that, Mommy?"
"Because that song makes me mad."
Of course, then I had to go into a whole discussion about what part of the song made me mad (they're used to us muting or turning off songs with bad language, but they could tell this was different).

The song has lyrics that say, "If it's meant to be, it'll be, it'll be, baby just let it be." In other words, if a relationship is meant to be, it will. No work required. Nothing but fate involved in the decisions to stay or go. Either you're soul mates or you're not.
That is such a horrible message. Think about it.
Relationships without work are doomed from the start. Even though all those fairy tales we love to read end with "happily ever after" and we assume the characters never have any problems, in real life, there's no way that will be the case.
This is the real world, like it or not. And relationships need to be based on more than just feelings. They need to have two people who are willing to put the work in, to stick with it even on days when you don't like one another, to agree to compromise when you don't agree, to be strong when the other is weak, to choose to keep going even when the going gets tough. That's the only way a relationship can survive.
I explained this to my kids in the backseat and my daughter said, "Oh, so is that why on the backs of your books there is always a problem the characters have to deal with?" Yes. Because I want my books to be semi-realistic. To show characters who have to work through issues and that it's sometimes a lot easier to have someone to work through issues with. Because life is going throw tough things at you.
So, the idea of letting a relationship just ride along however it wants to drives me crazy. You're not going to get very far that way.
My husband and I will celebrate 20 years of marriage next month. We didn't get there by just going with the flow. We've had quite a few struggles from job-loss and infertility to financial problems, house repairs, moving way too many times, and health issues too. Without both of us choosing to stay together and work through things, we wouldn't have made it to one anniversary, to say nothing of twenty.
So, I'll continue to mute that song whenever it comes on. And I'll continue to choose my husband as the man I want to be with. How about you? Do you have songs you hate that teach a similar message? Do you use instances like that to teach your children how a relationship should really be?